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Stumbling Stones free pdf This book is a beautifully written exploration of grief and loss. Thought-provoking, often poetic, Stumbling Stones is a stunning piece of writing that will stay with you. Everyone encounters grief and loss in their lives, yet we are curiously ill-equipped to deal with it, to manage our own grief and to feel comfortable around the grief of others. We view these events as painful and to be avoided yet they are inevitable and offer much to enrich the soul. They are not easy and occur in many forms. Not all loss is about death. Loss can mean loss of vitality, health, a partner, a pet, dreams, loss of a relationship or children leaving home. Disappointment is a key element of grief. This is a much under-recognised emotion that can govern how a person operates in the world. Stumbling Stones offer strategies, stories and case studies that aim to help people traverse the landscape of loss and grief, to provide support through these inescapable and often painful transitions. In one year the author lost a long term relationship, and then, after another, her cat, dog, father and twin brother died. "I felt that I was made of straw. When it happened, and kept happening to me, I found that many people didn't know how to be around me, some drew close, others ran as far away as possible as if pain was contagious. Some treated me like cut glass and others expected me to buck up and get on with it, "throw yourself into work!" they offered. But I was unfit for work, and offered poor company. I undertook a pilgrimage to the island of Iona in Scotland and to the Himalayas, looking for solace, consolation and insight. I also wanted to go far away to lick my wounds and to heal in private. I drew solace from strangers and dramatic landscapes. I needed time to reconstruct myself and contemplate deeply how grief affected me personally and how it awkwardly it impacted on people around me. I wanted to draw strength and wisdom from the tough lesson I was learning." Everyone will encounter difficulties and suffering. The challenge is how we manage these times, how we survive, develop resilience and understanding, how we grow and how we strive to cope. This book draws on literature, poetry, stories, observations and reflections to give insights and offer navigation through the important and unavoidable transitions of life. Stories include: Sudden descent - a story about being with my father and not knowing it was the last time. How I fed him brandy and Jaffas and wheeled him out to look at the sea. I never saw him alive again. How we forget to keep ourselves in the moment and remember what really matters. Beginning the journey to the underworld. Boo frigetty hoo - wallowing in pain. Going into a tailspin in the grip of grief and loss. The gift of clarity and the sharp edge of loss. How others can behave, how to navigate the terrain. Gifts of food and kindness of strangers. How help comes from unexpected places. Airport Bardo - the null space of an airport that offers a 'holding time' when you are between worlds. Transitions. How being in an airport offers the opportunity to go into neutral and to be open to what's around, possibilities. A time to be beholden to no-one except the rules of the airlines. Watching and listening. Thin Space - the Celtic term for the space between heaven and earth, they say only ever three feet, and how being in those thin spaces can give access to insight and understanding.Seeking Thin Space, sacred and holy sites. Sitting in deepest silence on the island of Erraid in the Inner Hebrides, Scotland. Walking across a squelchy peat moor covered in heather to a Wishing Stone, and an ancient oak that had grown sideways across a valley. Finding the Well of Eternal Life on the island of Iona. Looking for consolation in quietude. Tiny stone stairway - a story about behind a pedestal of postcards in the gift shop of the church where Shakespeare is buried, I found a very steep, very slender spiral stone staircase and climbed up into a prayer room. Here I found 6 wooden chairs, sitting empty in a dusty room, milky in the half light. This was a prayer room and the air was thick with solemnity and spiritual presence. Below people milled around taking snaps of themselves in front of the altar. Up the hidden perpendicular stairs, unbeknownst to the tourists, there was a sense of prayer and a potent silence. I sat very still and gave thanks for this divine oasis. Cement sacks and oracles -meeting a Tibetan nun who lived in a cave high in the Himalayas. She had nut brown peasant skin, strong hands and cropped hair. She told a story about a being made to carry cement sacks up the mountain by the Chinese and now, with crippled knees and back, she offered the words, Be Grateful. Later I visited an oracle that went in a trance and I lit 108 candles for my brother and my father while a shaman chanted and a moon rose over a sacred lake. Hold it right there - learning how to not be on the run from pain and how nothing worked until everything stopped. In India, I encountered a door problem. Doors that opened for others wedged shut for me. Locks refused to work. I had to stop. I had to not hurry and I had to ask for help. I had to yield to the day instead of trying to get through everything quickly. Too late for sorries now - facing regrets and living with guilt. The deeds undone and unkept promises , making decisions to live and be strong Fireworks and washing the stairs - coming back with renewed strength and sensitivity and then having to take care of the mundane and the routine. Once back in my home, daily life returned and I had to hang out the laundry and buy toilet paper. Learning about my battered heart and daily resolution to work toward the light, to not sink into darkness and sorrow. The tone is of wisdom and wry, hard-won understanding. The stories are of lessons learned, people met and how grief and loss don't go away, how everyone has a tale of sorrow and woe. How we all stumble, ragged and uncertain on the path of pain and renewal. How landscape, animals and strangers help. Somehow it's possible to gain strength and insight and to know that the grief will always be there but to not be defined by loss, like Mrs Havisham presiding over her cobwebby wedding cake.

About Airdre Grant

In a single year, New Zealand born Dr. Airdre Grant lost a long-term relationship, her cat, dog, father, and twin brother. She took herself on a pilgrimage to Iona in Scotland and to the Himalayas in search of solace, consolation, and insight. Airdre has written in both popular and academic press about the place and importance of love, grief, and loss in all aspects of existence."

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Author : Airdre Grant
Publisher : Hardie Grant Books
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ISBN : 1743790570
EAN : 9781743790571
Format Book : PDF, Epub, DOCx, TXT
Number of Pages : 128 pages
Age + : 15 years
Language : English
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